Premature Ejaculation: An Insightful and Honest Evaluation

Premature Ejaculation: It’s Not Just for Teens in the American Pie

Premature ejaculation may seem like a funny punch line to giggle at but it is a great cause of shame in many men young and old. It can affect your self-confidence and your sense of worth. It can cause frustrations in your sexual relationships and it may feel as though there is no hope for your sex life.

Who it affects

Many young men and boys suffer from the issue of premature ejaculation as they are going through puberty and early teen years. Usually coupled with spontaneous erections which can be embarrassing for the young boy. It usually corrects itself as the young man matures. But you would be surprised at the actual number of men who go through this issue at many different stages of life. Anywhere from 30 – 70% of men report having experienced it at some point in their lives. It is the most common sexual disorder in men under 40 years old. In much of history, it was considered a psychological disease, and there were no known organic causes.

What it is

Premature Ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates without control or orgasms too quickly. There are numerous reasons why this may happen and some of those reasons may be depression, stress, or mental or emotional health which can all aggravate this condition. There is growing evidence that some biological factors may make some men more prone to premature ejaculation.

Why it happens

A few of the things that could make this happen to a man are, intense arousal toward another person, the sensation of his boxers or sheets rubbing against his penis, exertion during exercise causing more blood flow to the penis, making it erect and from that point any light stimulation causing him to reach orgasm. This can not only occur during sexual/ oral intercourse but even during masturbation. Some men can have an erection suddenly and prematurely ejaculate without even touching the penis.

What are the effects

As you can imagine, these instances where you are not in a sexual setting can be devastatingly embarrassing. But this can be equally stressful when it happens with a partner. Sex is a form of great pleasure and connection for many couples. Enjoying the sensations of another persons body, and becoming closer and connecting through the emotional aspects of sex. But when a man has his orgasm too early this can leave the other party upset. The encounter is cut short with no release from the other person. This can hurt the relationship in many ways including emotionally. It can make a man so embarrassed that he avoids sexual contact all together, in fear of it happening again.

How to avoid

But there is hope for this man. For one, usually with time and maturity the problem will resolve itself. But there are a few things you can do to fix the problem sooner. First things first, admitting there is a problem is undoubtedly the very first step in fixing the problem…admitting you have one. As reported by having open and honest discussions about the issue may be very intimidating and scary but it is crucial. You should have talks with your partner about this and assure them that it is something you want to work on and that you could use a little patience and support. It is not something to be ashamed or embarrassed about.


Of the many techniques you can try, some things to consider are masturbating an hour or two before sexual intercourse to delay ejaculation during sex. You could try avoiding direct sex and enjoy other forms of sexual play, focusing on the pleasure of the activity as a whole, and not putting so much pressure on the climax and sex itself. Another thing to try would be pelvic floor exercises. Weak pelvic floor muscles impair your ability to delay orgasm. These exercises help strengthen these muscles and could give you more control before ejaculation. You could also consider using condoms as they tend to decrease sensitivity in the penis. There are even condoms you can buy that contain numbing agents and are made of thicker latex.

These features could significantly increase your chance of an erection lasting much longer for your partner to enjoy.

Consult your physician

Many methods could help with your premature ejaculation, so talk to your doctor today to see which methods are right for you and your partner.

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