Premature ejaculation: what would your partner want?

Premature Ejaculation Problems and Solutions

Ejaculation is a necessary process that happens with men, during either sexual intercourse or masturbation. In both cases, the moment of ejaculation defines a lot of the pleasure experience, since it is deeply connected with male orgasm, and the sensitivity of the penis to stimulation is entirely dependent on how close, or how far, it is from the ejaculatory moment. Although it does not happen on the female body, during sexual experiences most women will have their pleasure influenced by when or how the man ejaculates. And, last but not least, of course, ejaculation is what makes it possible for the sexual intercourse, if allowed to follow it’s a natural course, to cause insemination, which is essential to, later on, lead to pregnancy.

What is premature ejaculation

When this process is happening naturally, researchers report that it will usually take anywhere from 4 to 8 minutes. However, even in natural circumstances, that time period can vary extremely, from less to much, much more, and any isolated case in either direction is not a cause for alarm. What can bring about a problem is when a man starts ejaculating before the 4 minutes mark too often, and in some cases can even find himself never been able to even reach it. In other cases, a man feels his ejaculation is premature when the time he is able to keep his erection before ejaculation is not enough to satisfy his partner. In either of those cases, regardless of the reason, there’s a person who is dissatisfied with their ejaculatory behavior, and they could change that, sometimes quite easily, by seeking professional help.


Official diagnostic of premature ejaculation defines the problem to be present when an individual climaxes 15 seconds after the beginning of the intercourse. That should not stop any person feeling like their ejaculation happens too soon from seeking solutions since those can be found – but also should help to give perspective and help with not feeling too worried if this extreme case is not happening with you. It’s quite often for a person to be unable to control their ejaculation because they are not very aware of all the sensations and body mechanisms that lead to ejaculation happening. One thing that can be extremely helpful in those cases is to squeeze firmly one’s penis when feeling that ejaculation is unavoidable. That will often stop ejaculation from happening, and allow the person to focus on their sensations in order to learn the mechanism better, which leads to controlling it better. Stopping stimulation momentarily when the premature ejaculation is about to take place, and suspend any touches until those sensations are released, before restarting the stimulation, can also be helpful.

What can you do

Usually, it involved repeating this cycle 3 or 4 times and only then letting ejaculation happen. This is known to, in many cases, reeducate the body in a way that, after a few attempts, the patient becomes much more in control of how and when they ejaculate. Beyond that, in order to really gain stronger control and tranquility with the ejaculatory process, the ultimate solution while still dealing with one’s body is the so-called Kegel Exercises. They can involve a great number of different exercises in the pelvic region, aiming at making all the muscles involved with the ejaculation process stronger, which then can impact ejaculation delay even extremely. The simplest of those, and already helpful in many cases, consists on simply making the muscles of the prostate as tense as possible, and then subsequently relaxing them as much as possible. This is repeated as many times as it’s comfortable and should be done with a certain frequency. There’s no other physical solution that is more able to delay human ejaculation than the Kegel Exercises.

The root of the problem

However, in many cases, the root of the problem lies in psychological, not physical complications. Although even in those cases the improvement of the physical conditions could prove helpful if a person is experiencing psychological reactions along with their premature ejaculation, the help of a psychologist will absolutely be needed. If none of those procedures prove useful, in some cases doctors have found success with prescribing anti-depressants to patients with premature ejaculation. Even if those drugs were designed for something entirely different, they tend to cause delayed ejaculation as a secondary effect. Of course, it’s not recommended to resort to the use of medication without having tried all the other possible solutions, but that last resort option is also there to help someone who is not responding well to different approaches.

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